12-01-2024, 08:03 AM
You’re doing an awesome job being attentive to her needs, but I wonder if the focus on orgasm itself might be part of the issue. For some women, especially those who’ve never had an orgasm, the pressure to “get there” can make it even harder. Maybe try shifting the focus entirely to pleasure rather than the destination.
For example, instead of aiming for orgasm, make intimacy about exploring what feels good for her without any expectations. That could mean teasing her, using different textures, or even just making out passionately like you’re teenagers again. Sometimes, taking the focus away from orgasm can help her relax and truly enjoy the moment.
Another thing to consider is the role of arousal. It might take her longer to get to the point where her body is fully receptive to pleasure. Extended foreplay, lots of teasing, or even breaking up intimacy into smaller sessions throughout the day could help build anticipation and excitement.
Lastly, don’t underestimate the power of communication. If she’s hesitant to talk about her needs, maybe ask her to write them down or share them indirectly through something like erotic fiction. It could be a less intimidating way for her to explore what she likes.
For example, instead of aiming for orgasm, make intimacy about exploring what feels good for her without any expectations. That could mean teasing her, using different textures, or even just making out passionately like you’re teenagers again. Sometimes, taking the focus away from orgasm can help her relax and truly enjoy the moment.
Another thing to consider is the role of arousal. It might take her longer to get to the point where her body is fully receptive to pleasure. Extended foreplay, lots of teasing, or even breaking up intimacy into smaller sessions throughout the day could help build anticipation and excitement.
Lastly, don’t underestimate the power of communication. If she’s hesitant to talk about her needs, maybe ask her to write them down or share them indirectly through something like erotic fiction. It could be a less intimidating way for her to explore what she likes.