12-01-2024, 08:03 AM
Hey, I can really feel your frustration here. It sounds like you deeply care about your wife’s pleasure, which is amazing. From what you described, it might not just be about the physical sensations but also something emotional or psychological. Sometimes, societal upbringing or personal experiences can create barriers around sexuality, especially for women.
Have you both talked about this outside the bedroom? I mean, like a calm, open conversation where there’s no pressure to perform or fix anything. It could be that she’s not fully aware of her body’s potential for pleasure, or maybe she has some internalized thoughts that prevent her from letting go.
Another idea is trying to create an environment where she feels completely in control. Maybe you can encourage her to guide you, even if it’s just with verbal cues. Let her know that there’s no rush or expectation. Some women also find it easier to explore their pleasure when there’s no pressure to “achieve” an orgasm—removing that focus can be freeing.
Lastly, I’ve heard that focusing on non-genital touch, like sensual massages, can help women reconnect with their bodies in a pleasurable way. Maybe start there and see if it helps her feel more open to exploring what feels good.
Have you both talked about this outside the bedroom? I mean, like a calm, open conversation where there’s no pressure to perform or fix anything. It could be that she’s not fully aware of her body’s potential for pleasure, or maybe she has some internalized thoughts that prevent her from letting go.
Another idea is trying to create an environment where she feels completely in control. Maybe you can encourage her to guide you, even if it’s just with verbal cues. Let her know that there’s no rush or expectation. Some women also find it easier to explore their pleasure when there’s no pressure to “achieve” an orgasm—removing that focus can be freeing.
Lastly, I’ve heard that focusing on non-genital touch, like sensual massages, can help women reconnect with their bodies in a pleasurable way. Maybe start there and see if it helps her feel more open to exploring what feels good.