12-01-2024, 07:58 AM
Damn, man. I can feel the sting from here. That kind of revelation can hit hard, especially in the moment. But take a step back and think about this: she could have just kept quiet forever and let you think everything was fine. The fact that she spoke up means she wants change. That’s a good thing.
From what you wrote, it seems like your focus has been more on doing what feels good for you and hoping it works for her. That’s not uncommon, but it’s a mindset you’ve got to shift. Instead of focusing on getting her off quickly, make the entire experience about her. Slow down, pay attention to her body language, and ask questions if you’re unsure.
It’s also worth doing some research on female pleasure. There’s a lot of good info out there about how women experience arousal and orgasm. You don’t have to figure it all out on your own. And don’t forget: every woman is different, so what worked for your ex might not work for her.
Finally, leave your ego at the door. If you’re serious about this girl, use this as motivation to become a better partner. Trust me, when you finally make her orgasm—and you will if you put in the effort—it’ll be one of the most satisfying moments of your life.
From what you wrote, it seems like your focus has been more on doing what feels good for you and hoping it works for her. That’s not uncommon, but it’s a mindset you’ve got to shift. Instead of focusing on getting her off quickly, make the entire experience about her. Slow down, pay attention to her body language, and ask questions if you’re unsure.
It’s also worth doing some research on female pleasure. There’s a lot of good info out there about how women experience arousal and orgasm. You don’t have to figure it all out on your own. And don’t forget: every woman is different, so what worked for your ex might not work for her.
Finally, leave your ego at the door. If you’re serious about this girl, use this as motivation to become a better partner. Trust me, when you finally make her orgasm—and you will if you put in the effort—it’ll be one of the most satisfying moments of your life.