12-01-2024, 07:58 AM
I get it, man. Having her drop that bomb mid-session would throw anyone off. But think about it—if she’s never orgasmed with you, that’s probably been weighing on her for a long time. It might not have been the best timing, but it’s better to know now than never.
Here’s the thing: a lot of guys make the mistake of assuming that what gets them off will work the same way for their partner. It’s not about going harder or deeper. For some women, those things can actually be a turnoff if they’re not in the right mood or if it’s physically uncomfortable. She might be more into rhythm, teasing, or a buildup of sensations.
The fact that you don’t know exactly what she wants is part of the problem, but it’s also an opportunity. Sit down and say, “I really want to make this work for you. Help me understand what you need.” If she doesn’t know how to express it, suggest experimenting together. Turn it into a fun, non-judgmental exploration.
Finally, remember that sex is a two-way street. It’s about connection and mutual satisfaction, not just a performance. Focus on intimacy, being present, and making her feel safe and cared for. The orgasms will come—no pun intended.
Here’s the thing: a lot of guys make the mistake of assuming that what gets them off will work the same way for their partner. It’s not about going harder or deeper. For some women, those things can actually be a turnoff if they’re not in the right mood or if it’s physically uncomfortable. She might be more into rhythm, teasing, or a buildup of sensations.
The fact that you don’t know exactly what she wants is part of the problem, but it’s also an opportunity. Sit down and say, “I really want to make this work for you. Help me understand what you need.” If she doesn’t know how to express it, suggest experimenting together. Turn it into a fun, non-judgmental exploration.
Finally, remember that sex is a two-way street. It’s about connection and mutual satisfaction, not just a performance. Focus on intimacy, being present, and making her feel safe and cared for. The orgasms will come—no pun intended.