12-01-2024, 07:58 AM
Wow, bro. That’s a lot to unpack. First, take a deep breath and remember that this isn’t the end of the world. The fact that she opened up to you, even if it wasn’t in the best way, means she wants things to get better. She’s still invested in you.
It sounds like your styles in bed aren’t matching up, and that’s more common than you think. Women’s bodies often respond better to slower, more deliberate movements, especially at the start. Maybe try dialing it back a bit and focusing on her reactions as you go. Don’t be afraid to stop and ask, “How’s this?” or “Do you like that?” during the act.
Also, think outside of penetration. Many women don’t orgasm from it alone. Focus more on clitoral stimulation, oral sex, or using your hands. If you’re open to it, consider bringing toys into the bedroom. It’s not a replacement for you; it’s a tool to enhance her experience.
Most importantly, don’t take this as a personal failure. You’re learning, and that’s what counts. With some effort and communication, you can turn this around and make your relationship—and your sex life—stronger than ever.
It sounds like your styles in bed aren’t matching up, and that’s more common than you think. Women’s bodies often respond better to slower, more deliberate movements, especially at the start. Maybe try dialing it back a bit and focusing on her reactions as you go. Don’t be afraid to stop and ask, “How’s this?” or “Do you like that?” during the act.
Also, think outside of penetration. Many women don’t orgasm from it alone. Focus more on clitoral stimulation, oral sex, or using your hands. If you’re open to it, consider bringing toys into the bedroom. It’s not a replacement for you; it’s a tool to enhance her experience.
Most importantly, don’t take this as a personal failure. You’re learning, and that’s what counts. With some effort and communication, you can turn this around and make your relationship—and your sex life—stronger than ever.