12-01-2024, 07:58 AM
Man, that’s brutal. I’ve been there, and it’s a hit to the ego for sure. But the worst thing you can do is shut down or get defensive. If you love her like you say you do, then take this as a challenge to step up your game, not a reason to throw in the towel.
First off, stop guessing. Women aren’t mind readers, and neither are we. If you’re basing your moves on her reactions, you might be misinterpreting them. Sit her down and ask straight-up: “What can I do to make it better for you?” If she’s hesitant or embarrassed, try to ease her into the conversation by sharing your own feelings.
Another thing to consider: women’s orgasms are often as much mental as they are physical. If she’s not fully relaxed or if she feels pressure to perform, it can shut her down completely. You might want to focus more on creating an emotional connection during intimacy—like eye contact, gentle touches, and words of affirmation.
Don’t beat yourself up over this. It’s not a referendum on your manhood. Look at it as an opportunity to grow as a lover and partner. Trust me, the guys who figure this out are the ones who stand out in the long run.
First off, stop guessing. Women aren’t mind readers, and neither are we. If you’re basing your moves on her reactions, you might be misinterpreting them. Sit her down and ask straight-up: “What can I do to make it better for you?” If she’s hesitant or embarrassed, try to ease her into the conversation by sharing your own feelings.
Another thing to consider: women’s orgasms are often as much mental as they are physical. If she’s not fully relaxed or if she feels pressure to perform, it can shut her down completely. You might want to focus more on creating an emotional connection during intimacy—like eye contact, gentle touches, and words of affirmation.
Don’t beat yourself up over this. It’s not a referendum on your manhood. Look at it as an opportunity to grow as a lover and partner. Trust me, the guys who figure this out are the ones who stand out in the long run.