12-01-2024, 07:58 AM
Man, that’s tough to hear, especially in the heat of the moment. But honestly, this is the kind of wake-up call that could actually make your relationship stronger—if you handle it right. The first thing I’d say is, don’t take this as a knock on your masculinity. Women’s bodies are complex, and what works for one doesn’t always work for another. She might not even fully understand her own body, let alone know how to explain it to you.
You said she hasn’t verbally communicated her preferences. That’s your starting point. After this incident, sit down with her when emotions aren’t running high and just talk. Ask her what she likes, what feels good, and what doesn’t. If she’s shy about it, suggest trying new things together to figure it out. You could even explore resources like books or videos about female pleasure.
It’s also worth pointing out that sex isn’t just about penetration. A lot of women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm, and it sounds like that might be a missing piece here. Don’t be afraid to focus more on foreplay and use your hands, mouth, or even toys if she’s into it.
Lastly, don’t let this moment destroy your confidence. She’s still with you, which means she cares. Use this as an opportunity to learn and grow together. Trust me, if you nail this, your connection will only get better.
You said she hasn’t verbally communicated her preferences. That’s your starting point. After this incident, sit down with her when emotions aren’t running high and just talk. Ask her what she likes, what feels good, and what doesn’t. If she’s shy about it, suggest trying new things together to figure it out. You could even explore resources like books or videos about female pleasure.
It’s also worth pointing out that sex isn’t just about penetration. A lot of women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm, and it sounds like that might be a missing piece here. Don’t be afraid to focus more on foreplay and use your hands, mouth, or even toys if she’s into it.
Lastly, don’t let this moment destroy your confidence. She’s still with you, which means she cares. Use this as an opportunity to learn and grow together. Trust me, if you nail this, your connection will only get better.