12-01-2024, 07:46 AM
I totally understand where you're coming from, and I don’t think this situation is as unusual as it may seem. Some guys just have a stronger response to certain types of stimulation, and for him, it seems like oral sex is the one that gets him over the edge. It’s not necessarily a reflection on you or your body—he may just be wired in a way where that particular type of stimulation is what works best for him.
It could also be that he’s been single for a while and developed a routine or preference that’s hard to break. Many men, especially those who are not accustomed to long-term relationships, can fall into specific patterns of sexual activity. It’s not an indication of any problem with you—it could just be that oral sex is his comfort zone. And hey, that’s perfectly fine if you’re both happy with it.
If it’s something that bothers you or makes you feel insecure, though, it might be worth having an open conversation. Sometimes guys don’t even realize how their sexual patterns are affecting the relationship. Let him know how you’re feeling and ask if he’s open to experimenting with different types of sex to see what works. Maybe he’ll open up about his preferences and you can explore new ways to satisfy each other.
Also, there’s no harm in experimenting with different techniques or even talking about whether he’s okay with the idea of seeking advice from a professional if this becomes a sticking point. But I wouldn’t stress too much—it seems like this is more of a personal quirk than a reflection of any deep issue.
It could also be that he’s been single for a while and developed a routine or preference that’s hard to break. Many men, especially those who are not accustomed to long-term relationships, can fall into specific patterns of sexual activity. It’s not an indication of any problem with you—it could just be that oral sex is his comfort zone. And hey, that’s perfectly fine if you’re both happy with it.
If it’s something that bothers you or makes you feel insecure, though, it might be worth having an open conversation. Sometimes guys don’t even realize how their sexual patterns are affecting the relationship. Let him know how you’re feeling and ask if he’s open to experimenting with different types of sex to see what works. Maybe he’ll open up about his preferences and you can explore new ways to satisfy each other.
Also, there’s no harm in experimenting with different techniques or even talking about whether he’s okay with the idea of seeking advice from a professional if this becomes a sticking point. But I wouldn’t stress too much—it seems like this is more of a personal quirk than a reflection of any deep issue.