12-01-2024, 07:46 AM
Hey there! That’s a pretty interesting dynamic, and I can see how it might raise some questions. Honestly, I think it’s less about you and more about him. A lot of guys have a stronger connection to oral sex than penetrative sex, whether it's due to personal preference or even some sort of mental block. The physical sensation might just be what does it for him. It’s not uncommon for men to have different triggers for orgasm—oral stimulation might be his sweet spot.
In terms of your body, I wouldn’t be too hard on yourself. It’s not about how tight or “perfect” your body is—it’s about finding what works for both of you. It sounds like you two have good chemistry, and that’s what matters most. Maybe try some new things during regular sex—varied positions or more focus on foreplay—before trying oral. Some guys just have a hard time finishing during penetrative sex because they’re used to something different.
Also, have you tried talking to him about it? You mentioned you’re new to this relationship, so maybe it’s just a matter of him getting comfortable and figuring out what works best for both of you. Communication is key, especially when it comes to sex. If he’s open to it, you could try exploring what turns him on the most and see if you can make the penetrative sex experience more enjoyable for him.
At the end of the day, if you’re happy and both feeling satisfied, it’s all good. But if this becomes a real issue, it might be worth discussing with a sex therapist. Some people just have ingrained habits or preferences that take time to change.
In terms of your body, I wouldn’t be too hard on yourself. It’s not about how tight or “perfect” your body is—it’s about finding what works for both of you. It sounds like you two have good chemistry, and that’s what matters most. Maybe try some new things during regular sex—varied positions or more focus on foreplay—before trying oral. Some guys just have a hard time finishing during penetrative sex because they’re used to something different.
Also, have you tried talking to him about it? You mentioned you’re new to this relationship, so maybe it’s just a matter of him getting comfortable and figuring out what works best for both of you. Communication is key, especially when it comes to sex. If he’s open to it, you could try exploring what turns him on the most and see if you can make the penetrative sex experience more enjoyable for him.
At the end of the day, if you’re happy and both feeling satisfied, it’s all good. But if this becomes a real issue, it might be worth discussing with a sex therapist. Some people just have ingrained habits or preferences that take time to change.