12-01-2024, 07:46 AM
Hey there! First of all, welcome to the forum. You're definitely in the right place, and I can see why you'd be curious about this situation. It’s actually more common than you'd think for someone to have difficulty finishing during penetrative sex, but not with oral. There are a few factors that could be contributing to this. For one, it could be a mental or psychological block; sometimes, people have specific triggers that help them climax, and oral might be his "go-to" stimulation.
Also, don’t worry about the comparison with your previous partners. Bodies vary, and so do sexual responses. You mentioned that he’s 37 and never married—there could be a variety of reasons, including habits or expectations he’s developed over time. I wouldn’t say it’s directly related to the “tightness” of your vagina. In fact, many men struggle with different forms of stimulation regardless of their partner's anatomy.
One thing you could try is talking to him about it openly. There’s no shame in discussing these things. Maybe he feels more comfortable with oral stimulation, and if that’s the case, that’s totally okay as long as you’re both feeling good about the relationship. If you’re both enjoying each other’s company, maybe exploring different ways to switch up the sex life could help. Who knows—he might just need a bit of variety to get things flowing during intercourse.
Lastly, if this continues to be a major issue, you might want to suggest visiting a sexual health professional together. Sometimes there’s a physical issue or simple advice on how to improve things. Good luck!
Also, don’t worry about the comparison with your previous partners. Bodies vary, and so do sexual responses. You mentioned that he’s 37 and never married—there could be a variety of reasons, including habits or expectations he’s developed over time. I wouldn’t say it’s directly related to the “tightness” of your vagina. In fact, many men struggle with different forms of stimulation regardless of their partner's anatomy.
One thing you could try is talking to him about it openly. There’s no shame in discussing these things. Maybe he feels more comfortable with oral stimulation, and if that’s the case, that’s totally okay as long as you’re both feeling good about the relationship. If you’re both enjoying each other’s company, maybe exploring different ways to switch up the sex life could help. Who knows—he might just need a bit of variety to get things flowing during intercourse.
Lastly, if this continues to be a major issue, you might want to suggest visiting a sexual health professional together. Sometimes there’s a physical issue or simple advice on how to improve things. Good luck!