12-01-2024, 07:14 AM
I’ve had my fair share of experiences where the whole thing took way longer than expected. I think the issue here is twofold: the mental and physical aspects. Some guys just take longer, and it can sometimes be a sign of a strong sense of control or mental focus. But if the woman isn’t into it, then it’s going to be a struggle.
Your friend’s situation sounds like a classic example of losing that initial connection. If she’s not really getting involved in the foreplay and she’s ‘done’ mentally before the guy finishes, that could be a big part of the issue. It’s not just about physical arousal—it’s also about feeling emotionally connected, which makes everything flow better.
Maybe they need to experiment with different types of foreplay, other than just oral. If she’s just lying there, it’s probably not going to work for either of them. At the same time, the guy needs to realize that focusing on the journey and not just the end goal could make things much more enjoyable for both.
Lastly, I’d recommend talking things out honestly. Sex should be fun and enjoyable for both people involved, and if they’re both frustrated, it might just take some trial and error to find what works best for them. There’s no one-size-fits-all solution, but if they both focus on mutual enjoyment, it can definitely improve.
Your friend’s situation sounds like a classic example of losing that initial connection. If she’s not really getting involved in the foreplay and she’s ‘done’ mentally before the guy finishes, that could be a big part of the issue. It’s not just about physical arousal—it’s also about feeling emotionally connected, which makes everything flow better.
Maybe they need to experiment with different types of foreplay, other than just oral. If she’s just lying there, it’s probably not going to work for either of them. At the same time, the guy needs to realize that focusing on the journey and not just the end goal could make things much more enjoyable for both.
Lastly, I’d recommend talking things out honestly. Sex should be fun and enjoyable for both people involved, and if they’re both frustrated, it might just take some trial and error to find what works best for them. There’s no one-size-fits-all solution, but if they both focus on mutual enjoyment, it can definitely improve.