Women Have You Had Lovers Who Took Too Long To Orgasm?

[piciossa]

I feel for your friend. I’ve been in a similar situation, and it can get frustrating for both people involved. Sometimes, guys who are fit and in good shape can be more sensitive to the pressure to perform and ‘last longer,’ and it just drags the whole experience. If there’s a disconnect between the partners, then it can affect everything, including the climax. That sounds like what’s happening here.

I’ve noticed that foreplay really sets the tone for the whole session. If she isn’t getting involved, it’s hard for him to feel like he’s really connecting with her. Plus, a lot of women need mental stimulation just as much as physical. If she’s only getting aroused by him going down on her and isn’t putting in the effort herself, then it might feel like she’s just ‘waiting’ for him to finish.

Maybe what they need is a serious talk about expectations. If she’s not feeling engaged or interested, then it might be time to discuss what’s not working and how to fix it. Sometimes, switching things up can help reignite that spark—whether it’s a new position, a different pace, or just more focus on building the mood.

At the end of the day, both partners need to feel comfortable and connected. If either person feels like the sex is becoming a chore, then it’s time to step back and evaluate what needs to change.