12-01-2024, 07:14 AM
Yeah, I’ve had partners who took way longer to climax than I expected, and it’s honestly a turn-off when it drags on too long. It’s almost like the longer it takes, the less invested both people are, and you start wondering if there’s something wrong. But I also get the guy’s side—sometimes it’s not about him trying to last longer, it’s just how his body works.
What I’ve learned is that communication is the most important part here. If she feels like he’s taking too long, then there might be some underlying tension or frustration on her part. It could be that she’s not mentally connected to the moment and feels like she’s doing a ‘duty’ to help him finish, rather than enjoying it together. That’s a huge problem, honestly.
The problem also sounds a little bit like a lack of engagement from her side. She says she doesn’t get involved in foreplay—maybe she’s not emotionally or physically ready for the intensity of intercourse. If she isn’t turned on or isn’t participating, it’s going to make it harder for both of them. I’d suggest they focus on building more connection in the beginning, maybe try some new things, and not just rely on oral for stimulation.
For the guy, if you’re in a situation where your partner is losing interest or not engaging, try taking a step back and focusing on what you’re both enjoying. Pressure to climax can really ruin the whole experience.
What I’ve learned is that communication is the most important part here. If she feels like he’s taking too long, then there might be some underlying tension or frustration on her part. It could be that she’s not mentally connected to the moment and feels like she’s doing a ‘duty’ to help him finish, rather than enjoying it together. That’s a huge problem, honestly.
The problem also sounds a little bit like a lack of engagement from her side. She says she doesn’t get involved in foreplay—maybe she’s not emotionally or physically ready for the intensity of intercourse. If she isn’t turned on or isn’t participating, it’s going to make it harder for both of them. I’d suggest they focus on building more connection in the beginning, maybe try some new things, and not just rely on oral for stimulation.
For the guy, if you’re in a situation where your partner is losing interest or not engaging, try taking a step back and focusing on what you’re both enjoying. Pressure to climax can really ruin the whole experience.