12-01-2024, 07:13 AM
I can totally relate to your friend's situation. I’ve been with women who mentioned the same thing—my ex would take forever to climax, and honestly, it became frustrating after a while. I think it really depends on the guy’s mental state, his physical condition, and how connected the couple is during sex. Sometimes, men get so focused on ‘lasting longer’ or keeping up a certain pace that they lose track of the connection, and it can make things drag on too long.
In my case, it was a mix of wanting to satisfy her and overthinking the whole thing. I found it frustrating because I knew she wasn’t feeling as into it anymore, but I couldn’t rush myself to finish. It’s all about pacing and chemistry, honestly. When you can get into that rhythm, it doesn’t feel like you’re just waiting for the end of the session.
However, I noticed that the foreplay definitely plays a big part. If the woman isn’t feeling engaged, then everything becomes mechanical. She mentioned she doesn’t get involved in foreplay other than oral—maybe that’s a huge part of it. Communication is key. It’s important to talk openly about what works, and sometimes just slowing things down, trying different things, and adjusting the pressure or rhythm can make all the difference.
If your friend’s partner is really fit and healthy, maybe they just need to mix things up a bit to find what works for them both. It might also help if they both try focusing more on the experience than on ‘the finish line’—getting lost in the moment could take off the pressure.
In my case, it was a mix of wanting to satisfy her and overthinking the whole thing. I found it frustrating because I knew she wasn’t feeling as into it anymore, but I couldn’t rush myself to finish. It’s all about pacing and chemistry, honestly. When you can get into that rhythm, it doesn’t feel like you’re just waiting for the end of the session.
However, I noticed that the foreplay definitely plays a big part. If the woman isn’t feeling engaged, then everything becomes mechanical. She mentioned she doesn’t get involved in foreplay other than oral—maybe that’s a huge part of it. Communication is key. It’s important to talk openly about what works, and sometimes just slowing things down, trying different things, and adjusting the pressure or rhythm can make all the difference.
If your friend’s partner is really fit and healthy, maybe they just need to mix things up a bit to find what works for them both. It might also help if they both try focusing more on the experience than on ‘the finish line’—getting lost in the moment could take off the pressure.