12-01-2024, 06:39 AM
I can totally relate to your frustration. I’ve been in a similar situation where my girlfriend would get me close but I just couldn’t reach the finish line. It really does get to you after a while. One thing that helped me was focusing on different kinds of stimulation. I found that changing the rhythm, pressure, and even the angle during oral or manual stimulation made a huge difference. It might sound basic, but sometimes our bodies respond better to little changes than we realize.
Another thing I learned is that mental factors play a huge role. Sometimes, when you’re super focused on trying to cum, it can create performance anxiety, which makes it even harder. The key is to let go of that pressure and just enjoy the moment with your partner. Try to get in the zone and focus on the intimacy instead of rushing to orgasm.
It’s also worth mentioning that maybe you’re not as relaxed as you think. Even when you’re not consciously stressed, there can be underlying tension that affects your response. I had to learn to communicate openly with my girlfriend about what felt good and what didn’t. It’s crucial to be open and honest, so she knows how to adjust and help you in the right way.
If you’re still struggling after trying all of this, you might want to explore more professional options. Seeing a sex therapist can really help get to the bottom of things, especially if it’s tied to any deeper issues. But keep experimenting and stay patient—it can take time to figure out what works best for you.
Another thing I learned is that mental factors play a huge role. Sometimes, when you’re super focused on trying to cum, it can create performance anxiety, which makes it even harder. The key is to let go of that pressure and just enjoy the moment with your partner. Try to get in the zone and focus on the intimacy instead of rushing to orgasm.
It’s also worth mentioning that maybe you’re not as relaxed as you think. Even when you’re not consciously stressed, there can be underlying tension that affects your response. I had to learn to communicate openly with my girlfriend about what felt good and what didn’t. It’s crucial to be open and honest, so she knows how to adjust and help you in the right way.
If you’re still struggling after trying all of this, you might want to explore more professional options. Seeing a sex therapist can really help get to the bottom of things, especially if it’s tied to any deeper issues. But keep experimenting and stay patient—it can take time to figure out what works best for you.