12-01-2024, 06:34 AM
Hey, I totally understand where you're coming from. At one point in my relationship, I thought I was failing because my ex couldn’t orgasm from vaginal intercourse. But after talking to her and reading up on the subject, I learned that this is actually really common for a lot of women. Vaginal sex doesn’t always provide the right kind of stimulation for a woman to climax, and there’s no shame in that. The key is finding ways to enhance the experience for both of you.
One thing I did was focus less on the orgasm and more on her overall pleasure. Try using your hands or incorporating oral sex to get her closer to the edge. You can even try different positions that allow for more clitoral stimulation. This isn’t about adding more pressure on yourself; it’s about figuring out how to give her what she needs.
Also, remember that intimacy isn’t just about the climax. Sometimes the best sex comes from exploring each other without focusing on “getting her off.” Building trust, enjoying each other’s company, and being vulnerable can create a much deeper connection. That’s what’s important, not just achieving orgasm.
Finally, don’t let insecurity take over. You’re doing the best you can, and it’s okay to ask her what she enjoys. The goal is to make sure you’re both feeling good together, and as long as you’re both communicating, everything else will fall into place.
One thing I did was focus less on the orgasm and more on her overall pleasure. Try using your hands or incorporating oral sex to get her closer to the edge. You can even try different positions that allow for more clitoral stimulation. This isn’t about adding more pressure on yourself; it’s about figuring out how to give her what she needs.
Also, remember that intimacy isn’t just about the climax. Sometimes the best sex comes from exploring each other without focusing on “getting her off.” Building trust, enjoying each other’s company, and being vulnerable can create a much deeper connection. That’s what’s important, not just achieving orgasm.
Finally, don’t let insecurity take over. You’re doing the best you can, and it’s okay to ask her what she enjoys. The goal is to make sure you’re both feeling good together, and as long as you’re both communicating, everything else will fall into place.