12-01-2024, 06:34 AM
Man, I’ve been where you’re at. It used to really bug me that my girlfriend didn’t orgasm from just vaginal sex. I was convinced I wasn’t doing it right, but I eventually learned that it wasn’t about me or her not enjoying things—it was more about understanding how women’s bodies work. Most women need external stimulation to reach climax, and vaginal penetration just doesn’t always cut it.
Honestly, the best thing I did was stop putting so much pressure on myself to make her orgasm from penetration alone. We started incorporating different things like using fingers or a vibrator while I was inside, and that helped her a lot. Also, certain positions, like doggy style or spooning, can give her more clitoral stimulation during sex. It’s really about adjusting your approach to make it a more holistic experience for both of you.
What helped even more was having an open discussion about it. It wasn’t a ‘hey, you’re not coming, what’s wrong?’ conversation. It was more like, “Hey, I want to make this even better for you. What can I do to help you feel good?” That created a space where we could be honest without any shame or judgment.
In the end, don’t feel like you have to be perfect. It’s about connecting and exploring each other’s desires. Orgasm isn’t the only sign of a good experience, and as long as you’re both enjoying it and getting closer, you’re doing great.
Honestly, the best thing I did was stop putting so much pressure on myself to make her orgasm from penetration alone. We started incorporating different things like using fingers or a vibrator while I was inside, and that helped her a lot. Also, certain positions, like doggy style or spooning, can give her more clitoral stimulation during sex. It’s really about adjusting your approach to make it a more holistic experience for both of you.
What helped even more was having an open discussion about it. It wasn’t a ‘hey, you’re not coming, what’s wrong?’ conversation. It was more like, “Hey, I want to make this even better for you. What can I do to help you feel good?” That created a space where we could be honest without any shame or judgment.
In the end, don’t feel like you have to be perfect. It’s about connecting and exploring each other’s desires. Orgasm isn’t the only sign of a good experience, and as long as you’re both enjoying it and getting closer, you’re doing great.