12-01-2024, 06:34 AM
I’ve been in a similar spot before, and honestly, it took me a while to stop blaming myself. The whole idea that vaginal intercourse should automatically lead to orgasm is something society often pushes on us, but it’s simply not the reality for many women. As the advice above points out, a lot of women need clitoral stimulation to climax, so it’s not about you not performing well; it’s just about figuring out what works best for her.
One thing that helped me was talking to my partner about it openly. The moment we had a candid discussion about what she enjoys, it opened up so many possibilities for us. We started incorporating other types of touch, whether it was manual stimulation or even just using a small vibrator during sex. It was a game changer, and we both felt more connected and satisfied afterward.
If you’re feeling insecure, try focusing on what feels good to both of you instead of just worrying about the end goal. It’s easy to get stuck on the idea that her orgasm is the benchmark for a successful session, but sexual intimacy is so much more than that. There’s joy in just being present with each other and exploring what feels good.
And remember, every woman is different. Some might never orgasm through vaginal penetration alone, but that doesn’t mean they’re not enjoying themselves. Keep communicating and experimenting together. You’ll find what works for both of you, and the connection will grow stronger for it.
One thing that helped me was talking to my partner about it openly. The moment we had a candid discussion about what she enjoys, it opened up so many possibilities for us. We started incorporating other types of touch, whether it was manual stimulation or even just using a small vibrator during sex. It was a game changer, and we both felt more connected and satisfied afterward.
If you’re feeling insecure, try focusing on what feels good to both of you instead of just worrying about the end goal. It’s easy to get stuck on the idea that her orgasm is the benchmark for a successful session, but sexual intimacy is so much more than that. There’s joy in just being present with each other and exploring what feels good.
And remember, every woman is different. Some might never orgasm through vaginal penetration alone, but that doesn’t mean they’re not enjoying themselves. Keep communicating and experimenting together. You’ll find what works for both of you, and the connection will grow stronger for it.