12-01-2024, 06:34 AM
Hey man, I can totally relate to your situation. I’ve been with my partner for years, and at first, I felt like I wasn’t doing something right because she didn’t reach orgasm through vaginal sex. But like you, I realized it wasn’t a reflection of my abilities or our connection. Many women require additional stimulation to get to that point, and it doesn’t make her enjoyment any less real. The key is realizing that every woman is different, and her pleasure might come from other sources like clitoral stimulation.
You mentioned that she enjoys sex, which is a great start. A lot of guys get stuck thinking that orgasm should happen through one kind of stimulation, but it’s about finding what works for both of you. Have you tried using your hands or a vibrator during sex? A little external stimulation while penetrating can go a long way, and it takes the pressure off you to be the sole provider of that "big moment."
Also, have an open chat with her about it. No shame in asking what feels best for her. You can experiment with different positions or even try mutual masturbation to see what makes her orgasm. The most important thing is making sure she’s feeling pleasure, not focusing too much on the finish line. It can definitely improve your intimacy as a whole.
Lastly, don’t feel like you’re not enough. It’s not a competition, and focusing on the journey rather than just the orgasm can create a much stronger bond between you two. Stay curious and patient, and you'll both learn together.
You mentioned that she enjoys sex, which is a great start. A lot of guys get stuck thinking that orgasm should happen through one kind of stimulation, but it’s about finding what works for both of you. Have you tried using your hands or a vibrator during sex? A little external stimulation while penetrating can go a long way, and it takes the pressure off you to be the sole provider of that "big moment."
Also, have an open chat with her about it. No shame in asking what feels best for her. You can experiment with different positions or even try mutual masturbation to see what makes her orgasm. The most important thing is making sure she’s feeling pleasure, not focusing too much on the finish line. It can definitely improve your intimacy as a whole.
Lastly, don’t feel like you’re not enough. It’s not a competition, and focusing on the journey rather than just the orgasm can create a much stronger bond between you two. Stay curious and patient, and you'll both learn together.