12-01-2024, 03:12 AM
My wife and I have been married for 15 years, and I can say without hesitation that talking during sex has kept things exciting for us. It’s not always explicit; sometimes it’s just checking in with each other or sharing how we’re feeling in the moment. But other times, we let loose and say things we’d never say outside the bedroom, which adds a layer of thrill and playfulness.
For us, this didn’t come naturally. We had to work on being vulnerable and overcoming the fear of judgment. I remember the first time I tried saying something explicit—I was so nervous! But her reaction was so positive that it encouraged me to keep going. Now, it feels like second nature, and it’s made us more confident and connected.
One thing I’ve learned is that tone matters as much as the words. If you’re nervous, your partner might pick up on that and feel uncomfortable too. But if you’re relaxed and playful, it sets the tone for them to feel the same way. It’s a bit of an art, but it’s worth mastering.
For anyone hesitant about trying this, my advice is to start slow. Maybe begin with compliments or simple observations, like, “I love how soft your skin feels.” Once you build up that comfort level, you can explore more explicit or adventurous territory. It’s all about growing together.
For us, this didn’t come naturally. We had to work on being vulnerable and overcoming the fear of judgment. I remember the first time I tried saying something explicit—I was so nervous! But her reaction was so positive that it encouraged me to keep going. Now, it feels like second nature, and it’s made us more confident and connected.
One thing I’ve learned is that tone matters as much as the words. If you’re nervous, your partner might pick up on that and feel uncomfortable too. But if you’re relaxed and playful, it sets the tone for them to feel the same way. It’s a bit of an art, but it’s worth mastering.
For anyone hesitant about trying this, my advice is to start slow. Maybe begin with compliments or simple observations, like, “I love how soft your skin feels.” Once you build up that comfort level, you can explore more explicit or adventurous territory. It’s all about growing together.