12-01-2024, 03:08 AM
Your story reminds me of something I went through with a previous partner. She went from loving oral sex to being completely indifferent about it. I realized that I had to approach the situation with curiosity instead of frustration. When I asked her about it in a calm and loving way, she explained that her tastes had simply changed, and oral didn’t excite her the way it used to.
Instead of pushing the issue, I asked her what she wanted to try instead. That conversation led to us exploring other ways of connecting, like using toys or focusing on full-body sensual massages. Those experiences actually brought us closer, and it shifted the focus from “fixing” her preferences to simply enjoying each other.
Over time, she started initiating oral sex again, but it was always on her terms. That made it feel more authentic and enjoyable for both of us. I think the key was creating a space where she didn’t feel judged or pressured to meet a certain expectation.
If I had any advice, it would be to lead with empathy and patience. Sometimes, people need time to reconnect with their desires, especially in long-term relationships. By showing her that you care about her needs above all else, you might find that her interest in oral sex naturally returns over time.
Instead of pushing the issue, I asked her what she wanted to try instead. That conversation led to us exploring other ways of connecting, like using toys or focusing on full-body sensual massages. Those experiences actually brought us closer, and it shifted the focus from “fixing” her preferences to simply enjoying each other.
Over time, she started initiating oral sex again, but it was always on her terms. That made it feel more authentic and enjoyable for both of us. I think the key was creating a space where she didn’t feel judged or pressured to meet a certain expectation.
If I had any advice, it would be to lead with empathy and patience. Sometimes, people need time to reconnect with their desires, especially in long-term relationships. By showing her that you care about her needs above all else, you might find that her interest in oral sex naturally returns over time.