12-01-2024, 03:08 AM
Hey, I can definitely relate to some extent. My wife and I have been married for 15 years, and while our sex life is still great overall, there have been phases where certain activities just didn’t appeal to her as much. When she started pulling back on receiving oral sex, I initially thought it was something I did wrong. After some open conversations, I realized it was more about her comfort and mindset than anything else.
She mentioned that hormonal changes in her body had affected how certain things felt, especially during her mid-40s. It wasn’t that she didn’t like oral sex anymore, but it just wasn’t as stimulating for her as it used to be. We found that using external stimulation, like a small vibrator during oral, made the experience more enjoyable for her. It was a simple adjustment, but it worked wonders.
I also learned that communication needs to be ongoing. Sometimes, just asking her what she wants or how she feels without judgment makes all the difference. I try to make it clear that my goal is her pleasure, whether that’s through oral sex or anything else she enjoys. That reassurance seemed to help her open up more about what she wants.
Ultimately, I think it’s about being flexible and willing to explore new things together. If oral isn’t her favorite anymore, there are so many other ways to connect and satisfy each other. It’s more about the journey together than any one specific act.
She mentioned that hormonal changes in her body had affected how certain things felt, especially during her mid-40s. It wasn’t that she didn’t like oral sex anymore, but it just wasn’t as stimulating for her as it used to be. We found that using external stimulation, like a small vibrator during oral, made the experience more enjoyable for her. It was a simple adjustment, but it worked wonders.
I also learned that communication needs to be ongoing. Sometimes, just asking her what she wants or how she feels without judgment makes all the difference. I try to make it clear that my goal is her pleasure, whether that’s through oral sex or anything else she enjoys. That reassurance seemed to help her open up more about what she wants.
Ultimately, I think it’s about being flexible and willing to explore new things together. If oral isn’t her favorite anymore, there are so many other ways to connect and satisfy each other. It’s more about the journey together than any one specific act.