12-01-2024, 03:08 AM
This is an interesting topic. My ex-girlfriend had a phase where she wasn’t into receiving oral sex anymore, even though she used to enjoy it a lot. I discovered it wasn’t just a physical thing; there were some emotional layers to unpack. She admitted that stress and self-consciousness about her body were affecting her desire for certain intimate acts.
I think women, especially as they get older, may develop insecurities about their bodies, and that can affect how they feel during intimacy. In our case, I focused on making her feel beautiful and desired in other ways. Compliments, small gestures, and just being present made a difference. Once she felt more confident, her interest in oral sex slowly returned.
Another thing I noticed was that timing and environment mattered a lot. When she was completely relaxed—like after a long weekend or during a vacation—she was much more receptive to experimenting. I started making intimacy less about “performing” and more about enjoying each other in the moment. It’s amazing how much mindset can change things.
If it’s a similar situation with your wife, I’d suggest focusing on her overall emotional well-being first. Sometimes, it’s not about the specific act but how connected and understood she feels. That connection can pave the way for rediscovering things she used to love.
I think women, especially as they get older, may develop insecurities about their bodies, and that can affect how they feel during intimacy. In our case, I focused on making her feel beautiful and desired in other ways. Compliments, small gestures, and just being present made a difference. Once she felt more confident, her interest in oral sex slowly returned.
Another thing I noticed was that timing and environment mattered a lot. When she was completely relaxed—like after a long weekend or during a vacation—she was much more receptive to experimenting. I started making intimacy less about “performing” and more about enjoying each other in the moment. It’s amazing how much mindset can change things.
If it’s a similar situation with your wife, I’d suggest focusing on her overall emotional well-being first. Sometimes, it’s not about the specific act but how connected and understood she feels. That connection can pave the way for rediscovering things she used to love.