12-01-2024, 03:06 AM
You’re definitely not alone in dealing with this. My wife also struggles with staying aroused after she orgasms, and it took us a while to figure out what was going on. For her, the physical sensitivity after climaxing was just too intense, making it uncomfortable to continue. It was frustrating for me because I felt like we were out of sync, but we learned to work through it.
One thing we tried was incorporating toys into our intimacy. They helped take the pressure off her to maintain arousal while allowing me to focus on achieving my orgasm. This shift made things less stressful for both of us, and it actually became something we both enjoyed over time.
We also found that pacing was everything. If I focused on building up my pleasure early on and didn’t hold back too much, we were more likely to finish closer together. It wasn’t perfect every time, but it reduced the feeling of imbalance in our intimacy.
I know it’s easy to feel stuck in this situation, but being proactive—whether it’s trying new things, talking openly, or even seeking advice like you’re doing now—is already a big step forward. Keep experimenting and stay patient with each other.
One thing we tried was incorporating toys into our intimacy. They helped take the pressure off her to maintain arousal while allowing me to focus on achieving my orgasm. This shift made things less stressful for both of us, and it actually became something we both enjoyed over time.
We also found that pacing was everything. If I focused on building up my pleasure early on and didn’t hold back too much, we were more likely to finish closer together. It wasn’t perfect every time, but it reduced the feeling of imbalance in our intimacy.
I know it’s easy to feel stuck in this situation, but being proactive—whether it’s trying new things, talking openly, or even seeking advice like you’re doing now—is already a big step forward. Keep experimenting and stay patient with each other.