12-01-2024, 03:06 AM
I’ve encountered something similar with a past partner, and it’s definitely not easy to navigate. You’re right that many women are capable of multiple orgasms, but it’s far from universal. My ex would also lose interest after she climaxed, and it took us a while to figure out how to approach intimacy in a way that worked for both of us.
One thing we learned was the importance of timing. Instead of saving her orgasm for the “end,” we experimented with her reaching climax earlier during foreplay. Afterward, we’d focus on my pleasure or other activities that didn’t require her to maintain a high level of arousal. This approach allowed us to connect without either of us feeling frustrated or unfulfilled.
Another thing that helped was exploring non-sexual forms of intimacy to keep the connection alive. Things like cuddling, playful teasing, or just lying together after her orgasm kept the mood positive, even if the sexual activity slowed down. This also took away the pressure to “keep going” when she wasn’t feeling up to it physically.
Remember, everyone’s body and sexual preferences are unique. Comparing your wife to other women or societal norms can inadvertently make her feel like she’s failing, even though she isn’t. Focusing on what works for your relationship, rather than what’s considered “normal,” can go a long way in building mutual satisfaction.
One thing we learned was the importance of timing. Instead of saving her orgasm for the “end,” we experimented with her reaching climax earlier during foreplay. Afterward, we’d focus on my pleasure or other activities that didn’t require her to maintain a high level of arousal. This approach allowed us to connect without either of us feeling frustrated or unfulfilled.
Another thing that helped was exploring non-sexual forms of intimacy to keep the connection alive. Things like cuddling, playful teasing, or just lying together after her orgasm kept the mood positive, even if the sexual activity slowed down. This also took away the pressure to “keep going” when she wasn’t feeling up to it physically.
Remember, everyone’s body and sexual preferences are unique. Comparing your wife to other women or societal norms can inadvertently make her feel like she’s failing, even though she isn’t. Focusing on what works for your relationship, rather than what’s considered “normal,” can go a long way in building mutual satisfaction.