12-01-2024, 02:22 AM
I can understand why you’re hesitant, but I think it’s definitely worth having the conversation with him. It’s so great that you’re finally feeling more in tune with your body and that he’s already so understanding of your past struggles. That’s a solid foundation to build from.
What I would suggest is to frame the conversation as a mutual exploration rather than a “performance” expectation. Something like, “Hey, I’ve been thinking about how things are going between us, and I’d love for us to explore this part of my sexuality together. I think it could be really exciting for us both.” This way, it feels less like you’re asking him to do something for you, and more like you’re inviting him to be part of the journey.
Also, remember that it’s okay if things don’t go perfectly at first. Sexual experiences often take time and patience, so don’t stress if you don’t reach orgasm right away. It’s about enjoying the intimacy and connection, not just the outcome. Your boyfriend will probably appreciate the honesty, and it can bring you even closer as a couple.
Lastly, don’t forget that you deserve to feel pleasure. Don’t be afraid to take control of your sexual journey, and don’t feel bad about asking for what you need. If he truly cares about you, he’ll be open to helping you figure it out.
What I would suggest is to frame the conversation as a mutual exploration rather than a “performance” expectation. Something like, “Hey, I’ve been thinking about how things are going between us, and I’d love for us to explore this part of my sexuality together. I think it could be really exciting for us both.” This way, it feels less like you’re asking him to do something for you, and more like you’re inviting him to be part of the journey.
Also, remember that it’s okay if things don’t go perfectly at first. Sexual experiences often take time and patience, so don’t stress if you don’t reach orgasm right away. It’s about enjoying the intimacy and connection, not just the outcome. Your boyfriend will probably appreciate the honesty, and it can bring you even closer as a couple.
Lastly, don’t forget that you deserve to feel pleasure. Don’t be afraid to take control of your sexual journey, and don’t feel bad about asking for what you need. If he truly cares about you, he’ll be open to helping you figure it out.