12-01-2024, 02:22 AM
I think you should definitely ask him if you feel ready to. It sounds like you’re both in a really supportive and understanding space, and that’s key when it comes to this kind of exploration. I get that you’re afraid of putting pressure on him, but if you approach it the right way, he’ll probably be more than happy to help you. He might even feel good knowing that you trust him with such an intimate experience.
One thing I’d suggest is to make sure you communicate your needs clearly, but also be open about how you’re feeling. If you’re nervous or unsure, let him know. Don’t be afraid to tell him that you’re still figuring things out and that you’re not putting any pressure on him to "perform" in any way. It’s about discovering what works for you both, and if he’s patient, it can turn into something really beautiful.
Also, if he’s never had a relationship before, he might appreciate some guidance on what you like. That could actually make him feel more confident and connected to you. Make sure you’re both on the same page about what you want and expect. You’re allowed to take this at your own pace, and there’s no rush.
Ultimately, I think the key here is trust and communication. If you feel comfortable asking, I say go ahead—he’ll likely be more supportive than you think.
One thing I’d suggest is to make sure you communicate your needs clearly, but also be open about how you’re feeling. If you’re nervous or unsure, let him know. Don’t be afraid to tell him that you’re still figuring things out and that you’re not putting any pressure on him to "perform" in any way. It’s about discovering what works for you both, and if he’s patient, it can turn into something really beautiful.
Also, if he’s never had a relationship before, he might appreciate some guidance on what you like. That could actually make him feel more confident and connected to you. Make sure you’re both on the same page about what you want and expect. You’re allowed to take this at your own pace, and there’s no rush.
Ultimately, I think the key here is trust and communication. If you feel comfortable asking, I say go ahead—he’ll likely be more supportive than you think.