12-01-2024, 02:21 AM
Hey there! First off, it’s great that you’re feeling comfortable and open with your boyfriend. That’s a huge part of the process when it comes to intimacy and exploring what works for you. From what you’ve shared, it seems like you’ve been through some challenging stuff with meds and living situations that made it hard to connect with yourself sexually. Now that you’re in a better place, it sounds like you’re more in touch with your arousal, which is amazing!
As for asking him to help, I think it’s totally okay to bring it up. You don’t need to feel like it’s putting pressure on him. Honestly, if he’s a good partner and is already understanding about your situation, he’ll probably be really supportive of helping you discover what works for you. Remember, it’s not about him performing—it’s about exploring this together. You don’t have to make it feel like an “expectation,” but rather, as an opportunity to learn something new about each other.
Also, have you tried being really open with him about how you feel? Maybe you can tell him that you’re curious and would love to explore this part of your sexuality with him. I think honesty goes a long way. Let him know it’s not about pressure, but more about enjoying the journey together. Plus, if he’s never had a relationship before, he might actually appreciate the chance to learn with you.
In the end, don’t put too much pressure on yourself, either. Sexual exploration is a process, and everyone’s timeline is different. Take it slow, see how you feel, and let things unfold naturally. You’ve got this!
As for asking him to help, I think it’s totally okay to bring it up. You don’t need to feel like it’s putting pressure on him. Honestly, if he’s a good partner and is already understanding about your situation, he’ll probably be really supportive of helping you discover what works for you. Remember, it’s not about him performing—it’s about exploring this together. You don’t have to make it feel like an “expectation,” but rather, as an opportunity to learn something new about each other.
Also, have you tried being really open with him about how you feel? Maybe you can tell him that you’re curious and would love to explore this part of your sexuality with him. I think honesty goes a long way. Let him know it’s not about pressure, but more about enjoying the journey together. Plus, if he’s never had a relationship before, he might actually appreciate the chance to learn with you.
In the end, don’t put too much pressure on yourself, either. Sexual exploration is a process, and everyone’s timeline is different. Take it slow, see how you feel, and let things unfold naturally. You’ve got this!