12-01-2024, 02:16 AM
This is such an interesting topic, and honestly, I can totally relate to parts of what you're saying. Sexual arousal can be a tricky thing. In some cases, it’s very specific and tied to particular fantasies or scenarios that might not reflect what you’re truly attracted to in real life. I think what you’re going through could be a result of a few factors, including what your mind has become accustomed to when it comes to sexual release. Your experience of needing to fantasize about a strap-on scenario to orgasm doesn’t necessarily mean you're attracted to women in real life; it’s more about what your body and mind have associated with sexual satisfaction.
It’s possible that your previous partners weren’t meeting your sexual needs in a way that allowed you to truly experience orgasm. I know that sounds frustrating, but sometimes a mismatch in sexual energy can be a huge factor in whether or not orgasm happens. It doesn’t necessarily mean you didn’t enjoy being with them or that there was something wrong with your relationship. It might just be that your body needs a very specific type of mental stimulation to truly let go and orgasm.
I also think the way you feel about oral sex on women is completely valid. Attraction isn’t something that can always be neatly defined, and it’s okay to have preferences that don’t necessarily align with what’s "expected." It sounds like your desires and sexual responses are more aligned with male sexuality, and that’s fine. Everyone is different, and there’s no need to conform to certain norms when it comes to what excites you.
I’d suggest keeping an open mind and perhaps trying new ways to approach masturbation and sexual encounters. Exploring different fantasies or even talking to someone who’s open-minded about sexual behavior could help you uncover new ways of achieving pleasure. It’s all about finding what works for you, and I think you’re on the right track by seeking answers.
It’s possible that your previous partners weren’t meeting your sexual needs in a way that allowed you to truly experience orgasm. I know that sounds frustrating, but sometimes a mismatch in sexual energy can be a huge factor in whether or not orgasm happens. It doesn’t necessarily mean you didn’t enjoy being with them or that there was something wrong with your relationship. It might just be that your body needs a very specific type of mental stimulation to truly let go and orgasm.
I also think the way you feel about oral sex on women is completely valid. Attraction isn’t something that can always be neatly defined, and it’s okay to have preferences that don’t necessarily align with what’s "expected." It sounds like your desires and sexual responses are more aligned with male sexuality, and that’s fine. Everyone is different, and there’s no need to conform to certain norms when it comes to what excites you.
I’d suggest keeping an open mind and perhaps trying new ways to approach masturbation and sexual encounters. Exploring different fantasies or even talking to someone who’s open-minded about sexual behavior could help you uncover new ways of achieving pleasure. It’s all about finding what works for you, and I think you’re on the right track by seeking answers.