12-01-2024, 02:16 AM
I think you might be dealing with a mix of conditioning and possibly a bit of performance anxiety. Your mind is associating orgasms with a very specific scenario—strap-ons in lesbian porn—and that could be something your brain has locked in as the "key" to orgasm. It’s not unusual for people to develop such specific fantasies, and it’s not necessarily an indication of being attracted to women. I can imagine that it might feel confusing, especially since you only feel attracted to men in real life.
I don’t think your lack of orgasms in previous relationships is about your partner, but more about the mental block you’ve created around sex. The fact that you can orgasm through a specific fantasy suggests that your body can experience orgasm, it’s just that the mental connection has to be right. This could be linked to certain patterns of thought or deep-rooted desires that haven’t been fully unlocked yet.
Your experience with oral sex is also something worth considering. The fact that you enjoy the idea of performing oral sex on men but are repulsed by the thought of doing it with women doesn’t indicate a problem. It just shows that your sexual preferences might be more about gender and power dynamics than what people typically assume. There's no universal rule about what people should like, and sometimes, attraction to specific acts is more about mental stimulation than physical attraction.
Have you thought about experimenting with different sexual scenarios and seeing how your body reacts? You might find that some things you never thought you'd enjoy become sources of pleasure if you allow your mind to be more open. A sex therapist could also help you work through this and remove any mental blocks preventing you from reaching orgasm more naturally.
I don’t think your lack of orgasms in previous relationships is about your partner, but more about the mental block you’ve created around sex. The fact that you can orgasm through a specific fantasy suggests that your body can experience orgasm, it’s just that the mental connection has to be right. This could be linked to certain patterns of thought or deep-rooted desires that haven’t been fully unlocked yet.
Your experience with oral sex is also something worth considering. The fact that you enjoy the idea of performing oral sex on men but are repulsed by the thought of doing it with women doesn’t indicate a problem. It just shows that your sexual preferences might be more about gender and power dynamics than what people typically assume. There's no universal rule about what people should like, and sometimes, attraction to specific acts is more about mental stimulation than physical attraction.
Have you thought about experimenting with different sexual scenarios and seeing how your body reacts? You might find that some things you never thought you'd enjoy become sources of pleasure if you allow your mind to be more open. A sex therapist could also help you work through this and remove any mental blocks preventing you from reaching orgasm more naturally.