12-01-2024, 02:15 AM
It’s interesting to see how our minds and bodies can react in such specific ways when it comes to sex. I don’t think there’s anything inherently wrong with what you’re experiencing, though it does sound like a unique mix of physical and psychological factors. You might have developed a strong connection between arousal and the specific fantasy scenario you mentioned (strap-ons in lesbian porn). These things can stem from early experiences, exposure, or even just strong associations in the brain. It’s common for people to find certain fantasies more arousing than real-life scenarios, even if they're into the opposite gender in daily life.
From my own experience, I’ve noticed that certain kinks or preferences can be triggered more by mental imagery than physical reality. It might not necessarily mean you're "broken" or anything like that. It's also important to recognize that sexual preferences are often fluid and don’t always neatly fit into typical boxes of attraction. The fact that you feel pleasure with your partner but have never orgasmed might be about a mental block or even anxiety. Maybe you’re focusing so much on trying to achieve orgasm that you’ve inadvertently built up some pressure around it.
As for the thought of oral sex with a woman, that's totally fine. Sexual preferences are personal, and it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with your masculinity or sexuality. A lot of men are repulsed by the thought of giving oral sex to women, just like some women may feel uncomfortable with performing oral sex on men. It doesn’t make you any less of a man; it's just what works for you.
I’d recommend exploring these thoughts more with a therapist who specializes in sexuality. There’s a lot of complexity to sexual experiences, and they can help uncover underlying reasons for why you might feel more connected to certain fantasies. You’re not alone in this, and there’s definitely room for you to experience a satisfying orgasm in ways that work for you!
From my own experience, I’ve noticed that certain kinks or preferences can be triggered more by mental imagery than physical reality. It might not necessarily mean you're "broken" or anything like that. It's also important to recognize that sexual preferences are often fluid and don’t always neatly fit into typical boxes of attraction. The fact that you feel pleasure with your partner but have never orgasmed might be about a mental block or even anxiety. Maybe you’re focusing so much on trying to achieve orgasm that you’ve inadvertently built up some pressure around it.
As for the thought of oral sex with a woman, that's totally fine. Sexual preferences are personal, and it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with your masculinity or sexuality. A lot of men are repulsed by the thought of giving oral sex to women, just like some women may feel uncomfortable with performing oral sex on men. It doesn’t make you any less of a man; it's just what works for you.
I’d recommend exploring these thoughts more with a therapist who specializes in sexuality. There’s a lot of complexity to sexual experiences, and they can help uncover underlying reasons for why you might feel more connected to certain fantasies. You’re not alone in this, and there’s definitely room for you to experience a satisfying orgasm in ways that work for you!