12-01-2024, 02:05 AM
I totally get where you're coming from, and you're definitely not alone here. My ex and I also went through a similar situation. She couldn’t orgasm from penetration alone, and I initially thought it was something I was doing wrong, but I came to learn it was just how her body responded. I was always quick to try to get her to climax during sex, but I noticed that after she did, she would tighten up and sometimes say it hurt to continue.
What worked for us was taking it slower and paying more attention to her needs. After she came, I would switch things up—sometimes I’d focus on more foreplay or switch positions. It helped a lot because it allowed her to relax and enjoy the moment. I also realized that our connection wasn’t only about penetration. It was about making sure she felt comfortable and in control of what was happening.
Don’t be afraid to ask her about what feels good for her. Everyone’s different, and it’s crucial to understand her body’s responses. A lot of the time, people think that the end goal is orgasm through penetration, but in reality, it’s about how both partners feel throughout the experience. The most important thing is that you both enjoy yourselves.
If you find this continues to be a challenge, it could be a good idea to talk to a healthcare provider or even a counselor who specializes in sexual health. They can give you some advice that could help both of you feel more comfortable in your intimacy.
What worked for us was taking it slower and paying more attention to her needs. After she came, I would switch things up—sometimes I’d focus on more foreplay or switch positions. It helped a lot because it allowed her to relax and enjoy the moment. I also realized that our connection wasn’t only about penetration. It was about making sure she felt comfortable and in control of what was happening.
Don’t be afraid to ask her about what feels good for her. Everyone’s different, and it’s crucial to understand her body’s responses. A lot of the time, people think that the end goal is orgasm through penetration, but in reality, it’s about how both partners feel throughout the experience. The most important thing is that you both enjoy yourselves.
If you find this continues to be a challenge, it could be a good idea to talk to a healthcare provider or even a counselor who specializes in sexual health. They can give you some advice that could help both of you feel more comfortable in your intimacy.