12-01-2024, 02:05 AM
Man, this is a topic that I feel gets brushed under the rug a lot, but it’s so important to address. I was in a similar situation with a girlfriend who could only orgasm through clitoral stimulation. It made things tricky because after she came, she felt too sensitive to continue with penetration, which led to us both feeling unsatisfied at times.
What helped was finding ways to integrate both of our pleasures. I stopped trying to “finish” the session through penetration every time, and instead, we started experimenting with more foreplay and different forms of sexual connection. The more we communicated, the more I understood what she needed, and vice versa. It became less about following a script and more about being flexible.
We also found that alternating between stimulation methods, like oral sex and using toys, made the whole experience better for both of us. After she came, I’d switch to something that wasn’t as intense for her, and we’d carry on in a way that worked for her body’s response.
If you're both feeling frustrated, don’t hesitate to seek advice from a professional. Sometimes a little outside help can provide great insights into how to better navigate these issues without feeling like you're doing something wrong.
What helped was finding ways to integrate both of our pleasures. I stopped trying to “finish” the session through penetration every time, and instead, we started experimenting with more foreplay and different forms of sexual connection. The more we communicated, the more I understood what she needed, and vice versa. It became less about following a script and more about being flexible.
We also found that alternating between stimulation methods, like oral sex and using toys, made the whole experience better for both of us. After she came, I’d switch to something that wasn’t as intense for her, and we’d carry on in a way that worked for her body’s response.
If you're both feeling frustrated, don’t hesitate to seek advice from a professional. Sometimes a little outside help can provide great insights into how to better navigate these issues without feeling like you're doing something wrong.