12-01-2024, 02:04 AM
It sounds like you're going through something a lot of guys face, so don't feel alone in this. I’ve been with a partner who also had difficulty with orgasm from penetration, and it definitely made things complicated at times. Like your girlfriend, she preferred clitoral stimulation to reach climax. Initially, I thought I was doing something wrong, but then we had an open conversation about what worked for her. It was all about figuring out how to adjust our rhythm and be patient with each other.
What helped us was slowing things down and changing up the pace. Sometimes, after she’d orgasm, I’d make sure to stop and let her relax for a bit before trying to continue. I also realized that communication is key—she would tell me exactly what felt good, and when things started to get too sensitive for her, we’d stop and switch things up. It took time, but we learned to sync up in a way that worked for us both.
Don't let frustration build up; it’s all about finding that balance and not rushing through it. In the end, sex is about mutual satisfaction, so make sure you're always asking for feedback and adjusting accordingly. You don't have to follow a typical "rule" of just finishing with penetration—there are so many ways to make the experience fulfilling for both of you.
If it’s really affecting your relationship or making you both feel stressed, you might consider seeing a sex therapist. They can help you both explore solutions in a non-judgmental way, which could improve things beyond just the physical side.
What helped us was slowing things down and changing up the pace. Sometimes, after she’d orgasm, I’d make sure to stop and let her relax for a bit before trying to continue. I also realized that communication is key—she would tell me exactly what felt good, and when things started to get too sensitive for her, we’d stop and switch things up. It took time, but we learned to sync up in a way that worked for us both.
Don't let frustration build up; it’s all about finding that balance and not rushing through it. In the end, sex is about mutual satisfaction, so make sure you're always asking for feedback and adjusting accordingly. You don't have to follow a typical "rule" of just finishing with penetration—there are so many ways to make the experience fulfilling for both of you.
If it’s really affecting your relationship or making you both feel stressed, you might consider seeing a sex therapist. They can help you both explore solutions in a non-judgmental way, which could improve things beyond just the physical side.