12-01-2024, 02:02 AM
Hey, I totally understand what you're going through! It sounds like your fiancé gets a little too excited too quickly, which is super common, especially if there's a lot of intensity during sex. One thing that might help is practicing the "stop and start" technique. It sounds like he’s rushing toward the finish line, so maybe you could guide him to slow down by stopping and starting a few times. This can help him control his excitement. Also, try different positions—some positions give him more control, like missionary or spooning, rather than positions that make him feel too stimulated, like doggy style.
I’d also recommend looking into kegels for him—guys can do kegels too! It’s great for strengthening pelvic muscles, and with practice, he may last longer. You can try to gently encourage him to do them when you’re hanging out or during foreplay. It’s a low-key way to help without making it feel too clinical.
Another idea is to focus on his foreplay experience more. Instead of diving straight into sex, spend more time on foreplay. You mentioned you do a lot of dirty talk and spanking, which is awesome! Maybe you could mix it up and give him more time to calm down before going all in. This way, he might be able to last longer when the main event happens.
Lastly, communication is key. Be honest with him about how you feel during the act. Sometimes a partner doesn’t realize that things are happening too fast. He probably wants to satisfy you just as much, so just let him know in a positive and encouraging way!
I’d also recommend looking into kegels for him—guys can do kegels too! It’s great for strengthening pelvic muscles, and with practice, he may last longer. You can try to gently encourage him to do them when you’re hanging out or during foreplay. It’s a low-key way to help without making it feel too clinical.
Another idea is to focus on his foreplay experience more. Instead of diving straight into sex, spend more time on foreplay. You mentioned you do a lot of dirty talk and spanking, which is awesome! Maybe you could mix it up and give him more time to calm down before going all in. This way, he might be able to last longer when the main event happens.
Lastly, communication is key. Be honest with him about how you feel during the act. Sometimes a partner doesn’t realize that things are happening too fast. He probably wants to satisfy you just as much, so just let him know in a positive and encouraging way!