12-01-2024, 01:51 AM
Man, I’ve had this same problem before, especially when I was new to getting head. It’s a natural reaction, and you’re not alone in it. The first time it happens, you’re like, “What the heck just happened?” But honestly, it’s all part of the learning curve. What’s helped me is shifting my focus from "don’t finish" to "just enjoy the moment" without stressing about the outcome. The more relaxed you are, the easier it is to last longer.
I’ve also learned to recognize the signs when I’m about to finish, and I try to pause for a second. A lot of times, just taking a breath and slowing things down can make a huge difference. You can always ask her to slow down or switch up the technique a bit to give you a break, which also helps you stay in control.
Another tip I’ve found effective is edging—basically getting close to the edge of orgasm, then stopping before you actually finish. Doing this by yourself can help you last longer when you’re with someone else. It builds up your ability to delay the inevitable.
I think over time, you just need to build that mental muscle to stay in control. So, don’t stress too much about it—this stuff gets better as you get more comfortable in your experiences.
I’ve also learned to recognize the signs when I’m about to finish, and I try to pause for a second. A lot of times, just taking a breath and slowing things down can make a huge difference. You can always ask her to slow down or switch up the technique a bit to give you a break, which also helps you stay in control.
Another tip I’ve found effective is edging—basically getting close to the edge of orgasm, then stopping before you actually finish. Doing this by yourself can help you last longer when you’re with someone else. It builds up your ability to delay the inevitable.
I think over time, you just need to build that mental muscle to stay in control. So, don’t stress too much about it—this stuff gets better as you get more comfortable in your experiences.