12-01-2024, 01:43 AM
Damon, I just want to say that your openness is incredibly valuable. Too often, men are expected to have all the answers when it comes to sex, and that’s simply not realistic. Your feelings around this topic are valid, and I think there are many others who can relate, even if they haven’t experienced the exact same challenges. I’ve personally struggled with moments where sex or masturbation felt more like an obligation than a source of pleasure, and it made me realize how much mental health and mindset play into these experiences.
For me, working with a sex therapist was a game-changer. They helped me unpack a lot of the fears and anxieties I had, some of which I wasn’t even consciously aware of. It turns out that psychological barriers can have a huge impact on our physical responses. A professional might be able to help you explore what’s going on beneath the surface, especially if fear or overstimulation is part of the issue.
Another thing that worked for me was exploring intimacy in ways that didn’t involve traditional masturbation or sex. For instance, focusing on self-care activities that helped me feel good in my own skin—things like a hot shower, massages, or even just wearing comfortable clothes—helped me reconnect with my body. Have you thought about expanding how you define intimacy for yourself?
For me, working with a sex therapist was a game-changer. They helped me unpack a lot of the fears and anxieties I had, some of which I wasn’t even consciously aware of. It turns out that psychological barriers can have a huge impact on our physical responses. A professional might be able to help you explore what’s going on beneath the surface, especially if fear or overstimulation is part of the issue.
Another thing that worked for me was exploring intimacy in ways that didn’t involve traditional masturbation or sex. For instance, focusing on self-care activities that helped me feel good in my own skin—things like a hot shower, massages, or even just wearing comfortable clothes—helped me reconnect with my body. Have you thought about expanding how you define intimacy for yourself?