12-01-2024, 01:42 AM
your honesty really resonates with me because I’ve had my share of challenges in this area too. While I don’t share your exact experience, I’ve struggled with issues like performance anxiety and difficulty reaching climax. One thing I’ve learned is that the pressure to orgasm can actually make it harder to enjoy the process, let alone finish. I used to feel like I had to reach that point, and if I didn’t, I was somehow failing. But over time, I realized that the journey matters just as much, if not more, than the destination.
Have you ever tried focusing purely on sensations without any expectation of climax? For me, that meant exploring my body in a completely nonjudgmental way—using different types of touch, varying pressure, and even experimenting with temperature changes like warm towels or cool air. It might also help to incorporate visualization or mindfulness exercises to stay present and reduce anxiety. A lot of people benefit from starting with what’s called ‘sensate focus,’ where the idea is to explore touch without worrying about anything else.
Lastly, remember that your path is unique. There’s no single definition of what a healthy sexual experience should look like, and it’s okay if your journey doesn’t follow the same pattern as others. The fact that you’re here, asking questions and sharing, shows that you’re taking positive steps. Have you talked to others about this before, or is this your first time reaching out?
Have you ever tried focusing purely on sensations without any expectation of climax? For me, that meant exploring my body in a completely nonjudgmental way—using different types of touch, varying pressure, and even experimenting with temperature changes like warm towels or cool air. It might also help to incorporate visualization or mindfulness exercises to stay present and reduce anxiety. A lot of people benefit from starting with what’s called ‘sensate focus,’ where the idea is to explore touch without worrying about anything else.
Lastly, remember that your path is unique. There’s no single definition of what a healthy sexual experience should look like, and it’s okay if your journey doesn’t follow the same pattern as others. The fact that you’re here, asking questions and sharing, shows that you’re taking positive steps. Have you talked to others about this before, or is this your first time reaching out?