11-30-2024, 08:39 PM
Man, I totally hear you on this one. I remember that 'numb' feeling when I first started getting more serious with sex, and it’s honestly something that’s pretty common. The extended arousal can definitely throw off the natural rhythm of things and dull your sensations. What helped me was learning to pace myself during foreplay and focusing on different ways to keep the arousal levels balanced. It’s all about learning your body."
"I tried all sorts of things when I first started out—flexing muscles, trying to relax, holding off on the big stuff to manage the arousal. But I’ve found that the best approach is variety. I like alternating between gentle caresses, oral sex, and just kissing. This keeps me from getting overwhelmed by too much stimulation too soon and gives me a chance to gauge how I’m feeling before the main event."
"Also, I think there's a huge mental element here. The more you focus on not getting too excited or feeling like you’re failing, the worse it can get. I started to realize that my body just needed time to adjust, and that trying to force something to happen wasn’t the way to go. The more relaxed I am, the better the sensation becomes."
"One thing that helped me as well was learning to communicate openly with my partner. It’s so much better when both of you are on the same page and can try different things to make the experience better. If you’re still feeling numb after trying some of these adjustments, definitely think about seeing a professional just to rule out any physical issues
"I tried all sorts of things when I first started out—flexing muscles, trying to relax, holding off on the big stuff to manage the arousal. But I’ve found that the best approach is variety. I like alternating between gentle caresses, oral sex, and just kissing. This keeps me from getting overwhelmed by too much stimulation too soon and gives me a chance to gauge how I’m feeling before the main event."
"Also, I think there's a huge mental element here. The more you focus on not getting too excited or feeling like you’re failing, the worse it can get. I started to realize that my body just needed time to adjust, and that trying to force something to happen wasn’t the way to go. The more relaxed I am, the better the sensation becomes."
"One thing that helped me as well was learning to communicate openly with my partner. It’s so much better when both of you are on the same page and can try different things to make the experience better. If you’re still feeling numb after trying some of these adjustments, definitely think about seeing a professional just to rule out any physical issues