11-30-2024, 08:38 PM
Hey, man, I totally get what you're talking about. I've had something similar happen to me, especially in those early sexual experiences when you're excited and the blood is rushing down there. That numb feeling can definitely mess with the sensation and it can feel a little off. What helped me was not focusing too much on the erection itself but more on the foreplay. I found that when I slowed down and focused on giving and receiving pleasure through oral sex or deep kissing, it kept me in the moment without getting overstimulated."
"I know it can be tempting to try to get rid of the erection by flexing or trying to 'reset' yourself, but in my experience, that usually just caused more stress and messed with the flow of things. Instead, I learned that taking my time during foreplay helped me stay relaxed, and it actually made me more in tune with the sensations when we got to intercourse. I'd recommend you experiment with gentle, less intense stimulation before the actual act."
"The mental aspect of it is huge, too. I used to worry about maintaining a perfect erection or lasting long enough, and that just created unnecessary pressure. Now, I try to focus on being present and communicating with my partner about what feels good. I’ve found that when I let go of the need to perform perfectly, the sensation and overall pleasure gets a lot better."
"Also, if the numbness or lack of sensation continues, don’t hesitate to check in with a professional. While it’s probably just a normal reaction from too much arousal, getting a check-up never hurts, especially if it continues to happen. That way, you can rule out anything serious and focus on enjoying yourself.
"I know it can be tempting to try to get rid of the erection by flexing or trying to 'reset' yourself, but in my experience, that usually just caused more stress and messed with the flow of things. Instead, I learned that taking my time during foreplay helped me stay relaxed, and it actually made me more in tune with the sensations when we got to intercourse. I'd recommend you experiment with gentle, less intense stimulation before the actual act."
"The mental aspect of it is huge, too. I used to worry about maintaining a perfect erection or lasting long enough, and that just created unnecessary pressure. Now, I try to focus on being present and communicating with my partner about what feels good. I’ve found that when I let go of the need to perform perfectly, the sensation and overall pleasure gets a lot better."
"Also, if the numbness or lack of sensation continues, don’t hesitate to check in with a professional. While it’s probably just a normal reaction from too much arousal, getting a check-up never hurts, especially if it continues to happen. That way, you can rule out anything serious and focus on enjoying yourself.