11-25-2024, 02:54 PM
I absolutely understand your curiosity about these practices. My partner and I were in a similar position a few years ago—interested but unsure of where to start. We found that the key to these massages is mindfulness. It’s not just about technique, but about being fully present in the moment and connecting with each other. The yoni and lingam massage can feel very spiritual, especially when done with the right intention.
In terms of resources, I’d highly recommend looking into tantra workshops or courses, especially those that focus on sensual energy. We took a couple’s retreat where they taught us about the sacredness of touch, breathwork, and movement. It was enlightening. A good book for beginners is "The Heart of Tantric Sex" by Diana Richardson. It’s simple but really captures the essence of what these massages are all about—creating a deeper connection and presence with your partner.
The first time we tried it, the experience was a little intense, emotionally. It wasn’t just about relaxation, but also about letting go of old emotional blockages. It might sound strange, but it felt like I could access deeper parts of myself that I hadn’t been in touch with. My partner said it made him feel more emotionally open and connected to me, and that made a huge difference in our overall intimacy.
For the practical side, remember that each session doesn’t need to be about achieving a specific goal, like orgasm. It’s about the journey, not the destination. Sessions usually last around 45 minutes, but it depends on how comfortable you both are. The key is to communicate openly about what feels good and what you’re both looking to get out of it. It’s really important to stay relaxed and grounded throughout.
In terms of resources, I’d highly recommend looking into tantra workshops or courses, especially those that focus on sensual energy. We took a couple’s retreat where they taught us about the sacredness of touch, breathwork, and movement. It was enlightening. A good book for beginners is "The Heart of Tantric Sex" by Diana Richardson. It’s simple but really captures the essence of what these massages are all about—creating a deeper connection and presence with your partner.
The first time we tried it, the experience was a little intense, emotionally. It wasn’t just about relaxation, but also about letting go of old emotional blockages. It might sound strange, but it felt like I could access deeper parts of myself that I hadn’t been in touch with. My partner said it made him feel more emotionally open and connected to me, and that made a huge difference in our overall intimacy.
For the practical side, remember that each session doesn’t need to be about achieving a specific goal, like orgasm. It’s about the journey, not the destination. Sessions usually last around 45 minutes, but it depends on how comfortable you both are. The key is to communicate openly about what feels good and what you’re both looking to get out of it. It’s really important to stay relaxed and grounded throughout.