11-25-2024, 02:55 AM
This is such a relatable topic. One of my most disappointing encounters was with someone I had really high hopes for. We had great conversations leading up to it, and she seemed adventurous and fun. When we finally met, the physical attraction was there, but something just didn’t click emotionally.
The biggest issue was that she was so self-conscious that it was hard to fully enjoy the experience. She kept apologizing for little things, like how she looked or if she thought she wasn’t doing something right. I tried to reassure her and make her feel comfortable, but it was clear she wasn’t relaxed.
When we finally got intimate, it felt rushed and disconnected. It was like she just wanted to get it over with, which made it hard for me to stay in the moment. I left feeling like I had failed in some way, even though I knew it wasn’t entirely my fault.
Since then, I’ve learned to pick up on signs of confidence—or lack thereof—before getting to that stage. If someone isn’t comfortable in their own skin, it’s hard to have a truly enjoyable experience.
The biggest issue was that she was so self-conscious that it was hard to fully enjoy the experience. She kept apologizing for little things, like how she looked or if she thought she wasn’t doing something right. I tried to reassure her and make her feel comfortable, but it was clear she wasn’t relaxed.
When we finally got intimate, it felt rushed and disconnected. It was like she just wanted to get it over with, which made it hard for me to stay in the moment. I left feeling like I had failed in some way, even though I knew it wasn’t entirely my fault.
Since then, I’ve learned to pick up on signs of confidence—or lack thereof—before getting to that stage. If someone isn’t comfortable in their own skin, it’s hard to have a truly enjoyable experience.