11-24-2024, 02:31 PM
Your post really struck a chord with me because I think a lot of people struggle with similar issues, whether they’re demisexual or not, but they’re afraid to talk about it. First, let me just say that not being able to orgasm doesn’t make you broken or abnormal. Everyone’s sexuality is unique, and it sounds like you’re doing a lot of deep thinking about yours, which is a great first step.
I wonder if part of the struggle comes from societal expectations around orgasm. We’re often taught that it’s the ultimate goal of sex or self-pleasure, but for many people—especially those on the asexual spectrum—pleasure and intimacy look different. It might help to shift the focus away from orgasm and toward discovering what makes you feel good emotionally and physically.
Masturbation can be tricky when you’re not naturally aroused by visual or physical stimuli. Maybe instead of focusing on the act itself, you could try engaging in activities that relax you and make you feel emotionally connected to yourself. Meditation, for example, can help you become more attuned to your body, and that awareness might make it easier to explore physical pleasure.
You’re asking all the right questions, and that shows a lot of self-awareness. Keep exploring and seeking out stories from other demisexual people. You might find that their experiences give you new ideas for understanding yourself. And don’t hesitate to reach out to a professional if you feel stuck—there’s no shame in seeking guidance for something so important.
I wonder if part of the struggle comes from societal expectations around orgasm. We’re often taught that it’s the ultimate goal of sex or self-pleasure, but for many people—especially those on the asexual spectrum—pleasure and intimacy look different. It might help to shift the focus away from orgasm and toward discovering what makes you feel good emotionally and physically.
Masturbation can be tricky when you’re not naturally aroused by visual or physical stimuli. Maybe instead of focusing on the act itself, you could try engaging in activities that relax you and make you feel emotionally connected to yourself. Meditation, for example, can help you become more attuned to your body, and that awareness might make it easier to explore physical pleasure.
You’re asking all the right questions, and that shows a lot of self-awareness. Keep exploring and seeking out stories from other demisexual people. You might find that their experiences give you new ideas for understanding yourself. And don’t hesitate to reach out to a professional if you feel stuck—there’s no shame in seeking guidance for something so important.