11-24-2024, 02:30 PM
What you’re experiencing sounds incredibly complex but also deeply tied to your identity as a demisexual. I don’t think it’s unusual that your ability to orgasm—or lack thereof—might be connected to your need for emotional intimacy. For many demisexuals, the physical aspect of sex or self-pleasure doesn’t necessarily come naturally because it’s so intertwined with emotional connection.
It’s also worth considering how your long-term relationship might play into this. Being with one partner for so long can create a strong emotional bond, but it might also mean that your sexual experiences have been confined to a specific dynamic. Exploring different ways of connecting with your partner—both emotionally and physically—could potentially unlock aspects of your sexuality that you haven’t tapped into yet.
When it comes to masturbation, I get why it feels unnatural for you. Without the emotional component, it can feel like going through the motions. Have you tried setting the mood in a way that aligns with your emotional needs, like creating a relaxing or meaningful environment? Even something as simple as journaling about what intimacy means to you could provide insights into what might help you connect with your body.
Lastly, don’t underestimate the value of professional guidance. A sex therapist who understands how sexual orientation and identity intersect with intimacy might help you navigate these challenges. They can also help you redefine what intimacy and pleasure mean to you, so you can feel more confident in your journey.
It’s also worth considering how your long-term relationship might play into this. Being with one partner for so long can create a strong emotional bond, but it might also mean that your sexual experiences have been confined to a specific dynamic. Exploring different ways of connecting with your partner—both emotionally and physically—could potentially unlock aspects of your sexuality that you haven’t tapped into yet.
When it comes to masturbation, I get why it feels unnatural for you. Without the emotional component, it can feel like going through the motions. Have you tried setting the mood in a way that aligns with your emotional needs, like creating a relaxing or meaningful environment? Even something as simple as journaling about what intimacy means to you could provide insights into what might help you connect with your body.
Lastly, don’t underestimate the value of professional guidance. A sex therapist who understands how sexual orientation and identity intersect with intimacy might help you navigate these challenges. They can also help you redefine what intimacy and pleasure mean to you, so you can feel more confident in your journey.