11-24-2024, 02:30 PM
First off, I just want to say that you’re incredibly brave for sharing something so personal. Not many people would open up about such a vulnerable topic, and I think it’s important to acknowledge that. As for your experience, I can see how being demisexual could play a role in your journey with intimacy and pleasure. Demisexuality often involves needing a deep emotional connection for sexual attraction to develop, so it makes sense that traditional arousal cues might not resonate with you.
From what you’ve described, it sounds like there’s a disconnect between your mind and body, which isn’t uncommon for people who don’t fit neatly into conventional ideas about sexuality. The fact that you’ve been with one partner since you were 17 is also significant. It might mean that you haven’t had the chance to fully explore your sexual preferences or desires outside of that relationship. That’s not to say there’s anything wrong with long-term commitment, but it can limit experiences that help some people learn about their own sexual needs.
Your struggle with masturbation is also worth unpacking. If you’re not turned on by typical stimuli, it might take some experimentation to find what works for you. Have you tried exploring fantasies or situations that align with your emotional needs? Sometimes, even imagining scenarios that emphasize trust and connection rather than pure physical attraction can help bridge that gap.
Finally, you’re not alone in feeling like something might be “wrong.” Society places a lot of pressure on orgasm as the ultimate measure of intimacy or self-discovery, but everyone’s journey is different. It might be worth talking to a therapist or sexologist who understands demisexuality to explore whether there’s a deeper issue or just a unique aspect of your sexual identity.
From what you’ve described, it sounds like there’s a disconnect between your mind and body, which isn’t uncommon for people who don’t fit neatly into conventional ideas about sexuality. The fact that you’ve been with one partner since you were 17 is also significant. It might mean that you haven’t had the chance to fully explore your sexual preferences or desires outside of that relationship. That’s not to say there’s anything wrong with long-term commitment, but it can limit experiences that help some people learn about their own sexual needs.
Your struggle with masturbation is also worth unpacking. If you’re not turned on by typical stimuli, it might take some experimentation to find what works for you. Have you tried exploring fantasies or situations that align with your emotional needs? Sometimes, even imagining scenarios that emphasize trust and connection rather than pure physical attraction can help bridge that gap.
Finally, you’re not alone in feeling like something might be “wrong.” Society places a lot of pressure on orgasm as the ultimate measure of intimacy or self-discovery, but everyone’s journey is different. It might be worth talking to a therapist or sexologist who understands demisexuality to explore whether there’s a deeper issue or just a unique aspect of your sexual identity.