11-20-2024, 03:25 PM
It’s great that you’re invested in improving communication because that’s half the battle. One thing to keep in mind is that for some people, discussing intimacy feels incredibly vulnerable. Maybe your wife grew up in an environment where talking about sex was taboo, or she might worry about saying the “wrong” thing and disappointing you.
To help her open up, try framing it as a team effort. For example, you could say, “I want us to explore what feels amazing for both of us together. Let’s figure it out as a team.” This shifts the focus from her giving you feedback to both of you discovering new things together.
You might also experiment with different methods of communication. If verbal feedback feels too awkward for her, maybe she’d feel more comfortable writing down her thoughts or using a playful code system (like squeezing your hand to say “yes” or “no”).
Above all, be patient and reassuring. Let her know that her comfort and enjoyment are just as important as yours. Over time, this approach can create a safe space for her to share more openly.
To help her open up, try framing it as a team effort. For example, you could say, “I want us to explore what feels amazing for both of us together. Let’s figure it out as a team.” This shifts the focus from her giving you feedback to both of you discovering new things together.
You might also experiment with different methods of communication. If verbal feedback feels too awkward for her, maybe she’d feel more comfortable writing down her thoughts or using a playful code system (like squeezing your hand to say “yes” or “no”).
Above all, be patient and reassuring. Let her know that her comfort and enjoyment are just as important as yours. Over time, this approach can create a safe space for her to share more openly.