11-20-2024, 03:25 PM
It sounds like your wife might have some internal barriers to communicating about intimacy. Have you ever asked her why she struggles to give feedback? Sometimes, understanding the “why” can lead to breakthroughs. She might feel embarrassed, worry about hurting your feelings, or even believe she “shouldn’t” need to give instructions.
One thing that worked for me was using a non-verbal approach first. I asked my partner to guide my hands or show me what she liked. This allowed her to communicate without words, which she found much easier at first. Over time, this built enough confidence for her to start giving verbal feedback, too.
You could also try sharing more about your own feelings and preferences. Sometimes, when we lead by example, it helps our partners feel more comfortable opening up. For example, tell her what you love about touching her and why her pleasure matters so much to you.
If these approaches don’t work, consider seeing a counselor or therapist together. Sometimes, having a neutral third party to facilitate these conversations can make all the difference. It’s not about fixing something broken—it’s about strengthening your connection.
One thing that worked for me was using a non-verbal approach first. I asked my partner to guide my hands or show me what she liked. This allowed her to communicate without words, which she found much easier at first. Over time, this built enough confidence for her to start giving verbal feedback, too.
You could also try sharing more about your own feelings and preferences. Sometimes, when we lead by example, it helps our partners feel more comfortable opening up. For example, tell her what you love about touching her and why her pleasure matters so much to you.
If these approaches don’t work, consider seeing a counselor or therapist together. Sometimes, having a neutral third party to facilitate these conversations can make all the difference. It’s not about fixing something broken—it’s about strengthening your connection.