11-20-2024, 03:25 PM
This is such a common issue, and it’s great that you’re addressing it. Sometimes, the hesitation to communicate comes from not knowing exactly what feels good. If your wife hasn’t spent much time exploring her own body, she might not be sure how to express her preferences to you. Encouraging her to explore herself, either alone or with you, could be a good starting point.
Another idea is to try a more playful approach. For instance, suggest a “feedback game” where you try different techniques and ask her to rate them on a scale of 1 to 10. Frame it as a fun experiment rather than a serious conversation—it might make her feel less self-conscious.
Also, pay attention to how you react when she does give feedback, even indirectly. If she says something doesn’t feel good or shows discomfort, make sure you’re responding positively and adjusting without frustration. This can help her feel safer expressing herself in the future.
Remember, communication is a skill that takes time to develop, especially around sensitive topics like intimacy. Patience and consistency are your best tools. Over time, she may become more comfortable sharing what she likes and doesn’t like.
Another idea is to try a more playful approach. For instance, suggest a “feedback game” where you try different techniques and ask her to rate them on a scale of 1 to 10. Frame it as a fun experiment rather than a serious conversation—it might make her feel less self-conscious.
Also, pay attention to how you react when she does give feedback, even indirectly. If she says something doesn’t feel good or shows discomfort, make sure you’re responding positively and adjusting without frustration. This can help her feel safer expressing herself in the future.
Remember, communication is a skill that takes time to develop, especially around sensitive topics like intimacy. Patience and consistency are your best tools. Over time, she may become more comfortable sharing what she likes and doesn’t like.