11-18-2024, 02:34 PM
I’ve always been curious about why some women don’t enjoy receiving oral because it’s such a personal and intimate act. From my experience, it’s usually tied to how they feel about their own bodies. One woman I dated admitted that she was self-conscious about her appearance “down there” and worried about being judged, even though I reassured her that I found her beautiful.
Another woman said she didn’t like oral because she felt like it took too long for her to reach orgasm that way, which made her feel like she was “wasting” my time. That was a wake-up call for me because I realized she had been with partners who made her feel guilty for taking her time to enjoy herself. Changing that narrative took patience, but eventually, she started to relax and enjoy the experience.
There’s also the possibility that some women just don’t find oral stimulating in the way others do. Everyone’s body is different, and while oral might be amazing for some, it’s not universally enjoyable. That doesn’t make the woman “weird” or the man “bad at it”—it’s just a difference in how we experience pleasure.
The most important thing is to have an open and honest conversation. Ask her what she likes, what she doesn’t, and if there’s anything you can do to make her feel more comfortable. Sometimes, simply creating a safe space to talk about these things can lead to a deeper understanding and stronger connection.
Another woman said she didn’t like oral because she felt like it took too long for her to reach orgasm that way, which made her feel like she was “wasting” my time. That was a wake-up call for me because I realized she had been with partners who made her feel guilty for taking her time to enjoy herself. Changing that narrative took patience, but eventually, she started to relax and enjoy the experience.
There’s also the possibility that some women just don’t find oral stimulating in the way others do. Everyone’s body is different, and while oral might be amazing for some, it’s not universally enjoyable. That doesn’t make the woman “weird” or the man “bad at it”—it’s just a difference in how we experience pleasure.
The most important thing is to have an open and honest conversation. Ask her what she likes, what she doesn’t, and if there’s anything you can do to make her feel more comfortable. Sometimes, simply creating a safe space to talk about these things can lead to a deeper understanding and stronger connection.