11-18-2024, 02:28 PM
That’s an interesting perspective your wife shared, and it definitely sounds like it was a different time back then. I think she’s right to an extent—guys often do make a big deal out of getting a blowjob, partly because it feels amazing, but also because it’s tied to validation for some men. A woman going down on you can feel like she’s fully into you, which strokes both the ego and the physical desire.
That said, I can see why women might think it’s “no big deal.” For them, it might just be another part of intimacy, not something worth putting on a pedestal. The casual attitude she described back in the day makes me wonder if the sexual dynamics were actually freer than we think—drive-ins sound like the original hookup culture!
But yeah, times have definitely changed. Nowadays, some people overanalyze everything about sex, from power dynamics to whether it’s “expected” or not. Maybe that’s why guys seem more fixated on blowjobs—they feel like they’re harder to come by than they were in your wife’s time.
As for your situation now, it’s tough that she doesn’t see it the same way anymore. Maybe you could try to reignite the fun, casual attitude she once had about it. Start small, no pressure, and see if it brings back some of those drive-in movie vibes for both of you.
That said, I can see why women might think it’s “no big deal.” For them, it might just be another part of intimacy, not something worth putting on a pedestal. The casual attitude she described back in the day makes me wonder if the sexual dynamics were actually freer than we think—drive-ins sound like the original hookup culture!
But yeah, times have definitely changed. Nowadays, some people overanalyze everything about sex, from power dynamics to whether it’s “expected” or not. Maybe that’s why guys seem more fixated on blowjobs—they feel like they’re harder to come by than they were in your wife’s time.
As for your situation now, it’s tough that she doesn’t see it the same way anymore. Maybe you could try to reignite the fun, casual attitude she once had about it. Start small, no pressure, and see if it brings back some of those drive-in movie vibes for both of you.